Failed Date with Rich Chick in Jakarta
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Third day in Jakarta I am walking through the Grand Indonesia mall which is really nice and huge and pass some very light skinned girl. I can’t tell if she is white or Indo…… but she is hot and I give her my number.
An hour later we are texting and I find out that she is a flight attendant for a private jet for some rich dude in Saudi Arabia. She is half Saudi and half Indo and spends some time here because her dad is from Jakarta.
She has to leave next week and since neither of us are doing anything that night I throw out some lame ‘I would invite you to hang out but I am not sure what to do lol’ line which she sort of bites at.
I then say maybe we could just eat dinner and watch a movie at my place and while she doesn’t agree she says we should ‘meet for coffee’ by my apartment.
I hate coffee and I hate ‘dates’ but she seemed quite hot when I saw her so I gave it a shot. We meet at a mall nearby and I try to steer us to anywhere but Starbucks. I fucking hate Starbucks and have never spent a dime there. She suggests Starbucks.
She just wants an OJ and I don’t order a g-damn thing, my passion for hating Starbucks is deep and I can’t do it. I still have to pay for something for the first time ever there, but for her not me.
We chat for an hour and a half. She has traveled all over and spoke good English so it was a pretty easy game as far as having things to talk about. It was getting late and I said maybe we should go, she said where, and I said my place. She said no.
We talked for another 20 minutes and then I tried again. She said no but not as firmly as before and I said come on it’s halfway between here and your home, we can just watch a movie and continue to chat cuz the mall is about to close. She says yes and we go to her car.
Her Car WTF?
Well this is a first, I banged a girl in Cebu that had a hippie van, but for the most part girls in SE Asia rarely have cars. It was a nice new car with leather seats and fancy things.
Jakarta is a pretty crazy city with horrible traffic but at 9pm the traffic was just so-so. But a combination of her not knowing where she was going, me not knowing how things worked here, and my condo being in an awkward spot from the way we were heading had us taking a bit of a detour around the city.
I thought she was going to get frustrated and not come in, but that didn’t happen. Quick note, if you stay in Jakarta make sure you get a central condo. With the horrible traffic it is definitely worth it to overpay a bit for a nice location.
Inside the red circle pictured below is a good ballpark area to live in Jakarta. Towards the top are the sex clubs Classic Hotel and Travel Hotel, towards the left are Grand Indonesia mall and Plaza Indonesia, and towards the bottom is the nicer non-hooker nightlife.
Best area to stay in Jakarta
Thanks to harley on my last post who suggested ‘the best place to live for a single guy who wants to hit the clubs and be close to malls for dating, is Epicentrum at Taman Rasuna apartment’. I may try that next time, I see they have rooms on AirBnb. It’s also in the red circle (bottom half).
Back to the date.
Red Flags Galore
As we are walking up to my condo building she says she has to go home in 30 minutes. There are a few common red flags that often happen on failed dates. The biggest is that the girl sets a time limit on how long she can stay.
Not good, this isn’t a guaranteed no bang, but it definitely raises the likelihood of failure. Second red flag is when the girl sits in a chair not on the bed. She does that as well.
We chat for 15 minutes and then I suggest a movie and move the laptop to a spot where she has almost no choice but to sit on the bed hehe.
She is 2 moves ahead of me and sits on the far corner of the bed. Well played. I work my way closer and closer but can’t really get closer then like 2 feet away.
I had been semi touchy feely in Starbucks but we were pretty far away. Here again she is far away and the most I can do is some small arm pushes and things like that.
It’s 5 minutes away from her ‘I will go home at’ time. She has mentioned again since she got there that she will leave then, so it’s now or never time. I think through my options. Option A is to lunge 2 feet at her face and knock her off the bed.
I go with option B, pretend I am taking a piss and go into the bathroom for a minute, come out and kiss her on the neck from behind. A pretty awful option but its all I’ve got, plus you never know when you might hit the right spot on the neck.
She doesn’t react at first, then she cocks her head up a bit and I think I’ve got her. Then she asks why I am kissing her. I sit next to her on the bed and say ‘cuz you’re so pretty’ and go in again.
She says its time for her to go and leaves. Not really sure how I should have played this. Don’t think anything I could have done was getting me in then, she said she won’t kiss a guy the first day she meets him.
Not even make a move and wait til date 2? Sorry not my style, if a girl is in my room I am giving it a shot 100% of the time even if the shot is a low % chance.
The question now becomes do I bother to try again. Her face isn’t that hot, her body seems pretty damn banging. But what if on date 2 she won’t do it again, or will kiss and stop leaving me blueballed.
Once a girl shows she has the willpower to stop once I generally give up. With this one I am not sure. I’ve just signed up to IndonesianCupid to try my luck there.
Harley also commented that Jakarta girls are either hardcore gold diggers or super conservative, and then there are some hiso girls sprinkled in. I think I met one of the second two categories.