Picking up Girls in Malls in the Philippines
Abreeza mall, Davao
A reader asked on my last post if I could get more in depth on my strategy for picking up girls in malls in the Philippines – or basically handing out my number and scurrying off.
I read about this strategy on a forum many years ago. Some guys they claimed they walked around Cebu and handed their number (just their number, no cute message) to girls and that EVERY girl texted them, and they hooked up with many of them shortly after.
IMO that was complete BS. When I tried handing just my number with nothing else on the paper to girls I got texts 5% of the time. Yet these studs got 100%….. sure thing.
Also it usually takes quite awhile to actually meet these girls.
Those guys were just on a short vacation, I highly doubt they got lots of girls to insta-bang like that, in my experience that’s not how it works.
Ayala Mall, Cebu
Meeting girls in Asia is super easy and you can take many different approaches to doing so. I was reading on my bro’s Vietnam blog post where he mentioned he also hands out numbers.
He does it differently and only gives it to girls he has had a good conversation with. I am sure he has a MUCH higher rate of bang per number handed out than I do when doing it this way.
He mentions he likes to become a regular at a coffee shop or restaurant that has a cute girl working there, chat her up, and eventually give her his number. There is nothing wrong with that style, it’s just not my preferred way.
To me that is putting a lot of time and effort into one girl….. one girl that may be a virgin and afraid to meet a guy. One girl that may have a husband or serious boyfriend that she really won’t cheat on, or one girl that just likes to tease.
I prefer to go the other route and just flood whatever city I am in with numbers.
If I see a 7 or better and I have the chance to approach I am doing it. There have been months where I have handed out as many as 200 numbers.
Possible 7.5/10 at Ayala mall
By my rough estimates I only end up banging 3% of the girls I give my number and walk off without a conversation. That is not many.
But a lot of that has to do with how I proceed once I have given them my number. I don’t take them out to dinner or dancing or for drinks. I only hang out with the ones that will have the first date at my place.
I have also made it clear that I am just looking for friends nothing serious, and make sure they aren’t hookers. So basically what I am doing is casting a very wide net and trying to come in contact with as many girls as I can that are curious about hooking up with a foreigner.
There are many girls like this in Asia, and not many foreigners. The more you come in contact with the more you will find.
Everyone’s different and if you want to try this you can tweak it to what fits you best. Maybe you prefer targeting a few really hot ones and putting in a time investment on them. Both work. When you’re lazy to go out see who’s online on FilipinoCupid, AsianDating or Pinalove:
Picking up Girls in Malls in the Philippines – Pro Tips
The first thing you need to do is come up with some creative thing to write on the paper that will make the girl smile when she reads it.
You can try around with a few different things and settle on the one that seems to be getting the best results. For one week try one thing, and the next week try another and use the one that got the most text backs in a week.
Sorry I can not share exactly what I have written….. I have already handed it out 1,000 times and we don’t need thousands more of the same message floating around.
So now you want to write up a lot of these. I generally carry around at least 8, though there have been days where I have handed out double digits. I think my record is 12. Head to the busiest upscale mall in whatever city you are in.
Where to Meet Filipinas
In Manila I would recommend walking around the Greenbelt mall area, or one of the big SM malls.
In Cebu Ayala and SM are definitely the two prime ones. For some reason I have much more success in the nicer malls than the cheaper ones. I think it’s an equal combination of A) girls with more money have load to text and B) girls with more money have more confidence.
To me the biggest key is always staying on the move. I have read lots of guys on sexpat boards like PI Addicts who say they go places looking for girls (admittedly they are mostly talking about hookers) and they will take a seat and watch the girls go by. For my strat this doesn’t work.
Explaining my strat on the TwoPlusTwo forums
You’ll be covering a lot of ground, and more importantly you need to be ready to pounce when an approach spot opens up.
Most malls will have higher traffic areas than other spots. Your goal is to find as many hot girls as you can, so the higher traffic areas are where you need to be.
Just casually stroll around until you see a hot girl and then walk behind her until you get a good approach spot. That doesn’t mean a perfect approach spot, just a good one.
Good Approach Spots
The less eyes on you the better. The more people that she feels are watching her during this the less chance you will have of her accepting your number, or texting you if she does accept it.
Your goal is to have no one but you and her know that it happened, but if you waited for only spots like that then you would rarely be handing out numbers. Just follow her from the busy part of the mall to a less trafficked side walk way.
Then when no one else is walking towards you from the other direction go up and make your approach. I prefer no one to be walking to close behind us as well, but she will be unlikely to look behind her… so how ever much awkwardness you can put up with from strangers is up to you.
On the prowl
If she goes into a store I will be unlikely to go do it inside the store because there are so many workers inside the stores here and they will be trained to instantly greet and help any customer.
I’ve had some awkward spots handing out numbers in stores like I talked about in the where to meet Filipinas post. And sometimes girls call out as I’m walking off ‘WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THIS?!’ and everyone looks over 😀
But certain times inside a store can be a great private place. Every situation is different. I prefer the girl to be alone, but if she is out with her girlfriends I will go ahead and do it even though I kind of hate it.
This is more about bad memories of approaching girls in groups in the western world… it’s really not a big deal here.
My Rules I Almost Never Break
There are certain rules for this that I only break on the rarest of occasions. If a girl is walking with what appears to be her mom then of course I won’t approach.
It really isn’t that uncommon for a 21 year old to go to the mall with her mom in the Phils, though I doubt you see it often in the western world. Same goes for a grandma.
If there are any guys with her, or in the group then I won’t approach. I would be able to make an exception if it was like 2 girls and 1 guy and the guy was CLEARLY with the other girl.
Awkward approach spot at the Waterfront Hotel lobby
Even then the one I was approaching would have to be pretty special. I just find it awkward to do this with a guy standing two feet away. If it’s a milf with her kid then I am probably not going to approach. This is a little more breakable than the above rules, but it’s still pretty set in stone.
If the girl is hot enough then I may spend some time following them for a bit and hoping that she breaks off long enough for me to quickly slip in when the cockblockers aren’t around. She will need to be at least an 8 for that though. And sadly 8s are really hard to find here.
There are some other obvious times not to do it. Like if a big group is standing around in a circle you don’t wanna go barge in and hand it to a sexy Pinay.
Or if she is eating dinner with a big group, that would just be awkward. Though I have gone up to a few Filipina women eating at Jolibee or McDonalds and given my number to one on a few occasions.
Actual Approach Strategy
So now you have targeted a sexy Pinay and have waited for a good approach spot…… what comes next?
Just quickly walk up to her, SMILE, and tell her you noticed her back there and she was so cute that you had to make this for her.
Then hand her the little piece of paper. 95% of the time one of three things will happen. She will either silently grab it, ask you what it is, or say no thanks. If she grabs it say thanks you have a nice day and scurry away.
Sometimes I like to look back in a half laugh/smile, because they generally will look back also. If she asks what it is tell her it’s just a surprise.
Then stick it closer to her hand and she will usually take it, and again say thanks have a nice day and scurry off.
If she says no thanks I’ll say sorry to disturb and scurry away a bit quicker. That’s really all there is to it. Again the point of this is to get the job done as quickly as possible with as few people knowing it happened as possible.
Few people knowing is mostly for her sake because this will be a surprising thing for her and you don’t want to make her uncomfortable. The more positively she viewed it the better your chances are. And the majority of the girls do take this in a positive way.
Girls really love to be complimented and some foreigner just told her she was cute and now she feels special. Many girls faces will light up. But it’s also good to do it quickly for your sake, particularly if you are going to be doing it in the same malls day after day after day.
maybe i can still get her number A photo posted by Dante (@kick2dante) on
How To Close
From there you just wait for a text and hope it comes. Sometimes they insta text, but usually it won’t come until the next day. Once a girl texted me 8 months later (I hadn’t been in the city she lived in for 8 months so I knew.)
The thing is this is not a strategy for someone on a vacation. As I mentioned I only end up getting about 3% of the girls that visit me over, and the majority of the time the don’t come for weeks if not months.
This is a strategy for someone who lives there. 3% of 100 girls a month can really add up over time, you just need to be patient.
So if you have the time to be patient just be kind and a joker when you text her and don’t rush her into hanging out. If you are leaving soon then apply more pressure for a quick meet up.
If you’re offering a nice date she may go out sooner. But since I am just waiting for them to be comfortable enough to hang out at my apartment I really need to let them get comfortable and that takes time.
Set a Personal Record
One time at Ayala mall I see a hot chick, as I walk by I look back and her friend has turned around to check me out. I’m thinking to myself obviously the hot chick pointed me out cos I’m such a stud.
Go back a minute later, hand her my number she’s like “ya ok” and I go.
She texts me and asks me to come back and chat with her cousins and her, of course she insta texts me because again = stud.
I go there after trying to convince her to have the chat any where else away from her cousins but she only wants it there, we introduce ourselves she is a bit shy, the cousin is doing most of the talking (one of main reasons I hate meeting with girls’ friends).
Then the cousin says “she tells me this is the 4th time you have met.” 😀
I look at her and am trying to remember when we banged but no, definitely haven’t.
Turns out I’ve given this girl my number in the mall four times… at least she finally texted me!
Way to get the Hottest Filipina Girls
Finding Pinays like this leads to better results than the dating sites. When you meet a girl on FilipinoCupid, AsianDating or Pinalove you get to see plenty of pictures, but you still can never be sure how she will look.
When you have already seen the girl at the mall you know she is hot. If she wasn’t you wouldn’t have approached her.
I always try to ask for the girls facebook when they text me so I can see which one it was. Sometimes they won’t give me their FB… but I still will go ahead and meet them because I know that I wouldn’t have given her my number if I wasn’t interested.
If you have any better ideas for picking up girls the Philippines let me know in the comments!
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