Getting Laid on Filipino Cupid on Day 1, Date 1
Hi guys, so I’m on a visa run in the Philippines at the moment while Dante is in Thailand, we’ve swapped places! I landed Tuesday, signed up for a membership on FilipinoCupid Wednesday and woke up with a 20 year old Filipina in my bed on Thursday. I love Asia!
I’d used ThaiCupid before but this was my first time on their Philippines dating site.
I made a profile a couple days before landing in Manila as it’s free to appear in search and get sent some initial messages / receive interests. Then I bought a membership when I was settled in and ready to reply.
I’m enjoying the room so far, happy to recommend it – wifi is ok (for the Philippines), and the owner provided everything I needed.
I’d also recommend not linking your primary email to FC as it will be rammed with several messages an hour. Pinays really aren’t shy and they don’t just message guys in their city, you’ll get messages like ‘hey, just giving this a shot, if you’re ever in Boracay let’s hang out’.
You can also try a Chrome extension called Auto Refresh to reload tabs while you’re AFK, it keeps your profile on top of the search results (pro tip). I haven’t checked it with Cupid sites but it definitely works with Pinalove and Thaifriendly. I ran that while I unpacked.
After a couple hours I saw I had an interest from an ok looking girl, so I sent her a message. Within a few messages she’d given me her number and invited me to some mall 20km away to meet her.
I was feeling adventurous to see different parts of the city so I didn’t mind going so far and ordered a cab on ‘Grab’ mobile app (cheaper and more safer taxi company).
The way she asked ‘you want party?’ made me think she might be after money but I didn’t mind giving her ‘taxi money’ if she wanted it.
I didn’t follow Dante’s advice of asking them if they’re a hooker before even meeting, lol.
She also said she’s with a friend, again I didn’t follow Dante’s advice of never letting Filipina dates bring a friend, I was tired so didn’t feel like making conversation one on one anyway.
So I get to Alabang mall about 10pm, and it’s like something out of a Resident Evil movie, Manila is really ghetto outside of Makati and the Fort. Like Tijuana without the good food.
It turns out the mall closed at 9 (reminds me of Issan in Thailand), even though at 9.10 she’d said to text her when I got there. Mall workers sitting outside waiting for a bus home are staring at me like WTF is this white dude doing here in the middle of nowhere trying to get into the mall.
I find a security guard still standing outside the mall with his shotgun and stand around near him.
It takes 10 mins for her to reply to my message saying I’d arrived, then another 15 mins for her to show up, turns out she’d gone home to get dressed even though I’d texted to say I was on my way.
I ask her why she invited me here if it’s closed and she says sorry it’s near my place so it’s easy to meet. I let it go and we get in a taxi to go out, I have no idea where’s good to go as it’s my first night out in Manila, so asked her to suggest somewhere.
She suggests Ermita, which I know is right next to Makati so basically we’re going back to where to where I came from, I joke that she could’ve just met me there. The friend looks at me to ask if we can go on the skyway, basically asking if I mind paying the toll fee, 180 pesos. I say sure.
Then when we arrive they look at me and tell me the meter fare, 300, and I pay that.
We go to Exclusiv Club which was pretty dead at 11 on a weekday night. The service staff say something to the girls, then they look at me and ask if I want to sit upstairs in the VIP area, it’s 5000 pesos. I lol and say no let’s sit downstairs, the place is mostly empty anyway.
I order a drink and they order 3 beers between themselves, I ask why 3 and they say ‘it has to be 3’ for some reason, I say ok, thinking maybe it’s a buy 2 get 1 free deal or something. The bill arrives and they point to me. I pay it, 600 pesos.
Can I Order?
The friend was also been looking at the food menu at this point – it’s a nightclub so obviously it’s really expensive finger food like a small plate of french fries for 300 pesos – and then looking at me for approval. She asks if she can order.
At this point I get a bit annoyed, and say no to the food. I don’t mind paying for stuff but normally girls would make some small token effort to chip in, or at least reach for their purse (at which point I’d say don’t worry about it). Especially in a group of 3, it’s not a one on one date, and it wasn’t my original idea to go partying.
I’m starting to think they’re freelancers as the friend has a pic of herself in lingerie on her phone home screen and kinda looks like one, although my girl seems more normal and cuter.
I had forgot to ask what she does for work as I hate getting asked that question myself. I ask her now, and she says ‘nothing, just party’ and that she was planning to study.
I ask how she’d have come to Ermita if I wasn’t there, if she’d have taken a taxi all this way as a student, and she said no she’d have taken a bus and a jeepney. She asks me ‘are you okay?’ (for about the 5th time).
I explain it’s a bit rude to tell a guy to meet you at a closed mall so you can get a free ride into town with a friend, and look at him everytime something needs to be paid, at this point I’m down 1000 pesos to her and her friend. I ask if she normally does this, and if she goes with guys for money.
I don’t mind, but just want to know so I don’t end up paying for a night out and then sex on top, I’d rather just skip the expensive 3 way night out if so.
She says sorry, and says no she never goes with guys for money. I suggest somewhere a bit more laid back than a nightclub so we get in a cab to Pasay area, and this time the friend pays, 150 pesos. The friend is a bit older, and has a Skype call with some old western dude in the U.S. during the cab journey, turning sideways in the front seat so I’m not in the shot.
The night starts going normally once we’re in Pasay, they both pay for their share of the food, and are really apologetic. We ate at Giligan’s restobar by the river. I swear every Filipino dish is fried and/or dripping in oil.
I’m having more fun though as it feels more like a relaxed date instead of taking a couple hookers to a nightclub. I liked the Pasay riverfront area (above), it has a ferris wheel and is near the Mall of Asia.
My girl keeps asking me if I’m ok (about ten times now) and ‘what do you want’. Then she asks if I want a massage. The same line Dante uses on girls 😀 . I say yeah sure and she asks where, I say why don’t you just come to mine, and she agrees.
We get home, shower then get into bed. After the massage I say thanks and go in for a kiss, and we bang.
She takes hours to leave the next day, finally leaves at 3pm when I start working on my laptop. I’d asked her if she needs any taxi money before that, she said ‘no it’s ok, I’ll take a jeep – why, do you want me to go?’ Then another hour went by.
When she finally did leave, as I’m walking her out she announced ‘I’ll take a taxi’, changing her mind. I felt that was her way of saying ‘ok I’ll take that taxi money actually’ but being shy to ask.
I handed her 300 then logged back onto FilipinoCupid to do it all over again. Total cost about 1500 pesos to see a bit of Manila and get laid with a 20 year old ‘student’.
My read is she’s what Dante calls a gray area girl, happy to have sex on the first date if it she gets a night out, or some food / taxi money out of it, has fun, and freerolls the possibility of the guy becoming a boyfriend / husband one day.