Filipina Girlfriend Asking for Money

filipina girlfriend asking for moneyWithout a doubt the most confusing part of my current life is trying to figure out of the girls I hang out with want money or not. #PhilippinesProblems.

‘Filipina girlfriend asking for money’ and ‘allowance’ are auto suggested by Google sometimes when you start typing, so I can’t be the only one.

I do all that I can to find out before we hang out the first time, but I still am often unsure.

You would think the easiest way to find out the answer is to just ask right?  So that is what I do before I hang out with any new sexy Pinay that I meet.

I politely ask if it is OK for me to ask her a rude question, and then say I am sorry to ask this but ‘do you go with man for money?’  Afterwards I explain that I just want to make sure, and I was not accusing her and hope I did not offend.

Doing it in that manner I have only lost contact with a few Filipina women over the years who got offended.  My theory is that they probably did in fact want money but didn’t want to lose face so called me an @sshole for asking instead of just saying yes.

Most Filipina girls will understand when you tell them that many girls here want money.  Again you just have to do it in a kind way and not an accusing way.  The problem is even when you ask they may say no but they still want cash.


I met a girl on Pinalove and we chatted for awhile.  I invited her over to my place in the afternoon and she said OK.  I asked her if she went with man for money and she said no, and I said OK and offered to pay her fare.

She came over and we chatted for half an hour and then threw on a movie on the laptop in bed.  She cuddled up closer and closer to me on the bed during the movie and I made my move.


After showing her the best 2 minutes of her life I take a shower. As I’m drying off she says that she needs to go home and I give her the jeepney fare.  She then asks if she can ‘have a favor’ because she needs to buy shoes for school and can I give her the money for them?

What the?  She just told me a few hours ago that she wasn’t coming over for money.

‘Big Problems’

This will happen from time to time, but more often they wait until a few days later to tell you about their ‘big problem’ and ask you to help.  I really do not understand what is going through their heads, I have asked them if they wanted money and they said no. Yet they still come over and give it up easily and then try to guilt me in to paying.

The thing is it’s not really fair to me because I would not have gone with them if they wanted me to pay.  That is the whole point of asking, to weed out the pros.  Yet they say no and then ask for it after.  In these cases I generally give them a small amount so they at least got something for their time, but not near as much as they were hoping to get.

From time to time you will get some real head scratchers though.  They will say they don’t want money, then throw out many mixed signals.  In those cases they probably want money but are too shy to ask for it.  However that is not always the case.

Is your Filipina girlfriend asking for money? Let me know your best strat for dealing with it!

27 Responses

  1. jspill says:

    in thailand this is the ‘water buffalo sick’ phenomenon

  2. I8888I says:

    what’s a small amount? few hundred pesos?

  3. kick2dante says:

    it’s all relative

  4. Nica says:

    I wonder why,, if those girl know that your using their pics in this blogs.. The way you where putting it, that Filipina women are nothing but just a pleasure for you and say negative about them(cheater, user, and hooker). Your problem is easy anyway. Find your woman and don’t stick around with Filipina woman. Lol, i think your stupid.

  5. Tom says:

    well everyone is right and wrong, yes a lot of filipina”s do ask for money,but trying to sort through the truth and the lies is the hard part, i guess the one that is sincere is about needing money for family food or for education,a little help goes a long ways,but the ones who are asking for cell phones or computers,or even cable tv are the ones to be avoided’

  6. Crystal says:

    Firstly, NEVER give a Filipino money. Once you do they will expect it from you. Secondly, people lie. JUST DON’T GIVE THEM MONEY.

    • Anonymous says:

      My girlfriend asked for 600.00 to tie up lose ends before she comes to live with me in Texas. She lives in Wisconsin. Of course I didn’t give her any money for bills. I told her to get the addresses and we can send them a check monthly. Oh she wants to marry me too. Randy from Texas

  7. kick2dante says:

    they can lie about needing money for food or rent or school……

  8. SouthernAdventurer says:

    “I don’t pay hookers for sex, I pay them to leave.” Sounds like a perfect way of describing this.

  9. Solomon says:

    I find it strange you still dont understand the People after years spent in asia. And why you want To use Girls for sex and then wont even help them out When they ask for got what you wanted and you ignorant boy really think that They just want To have sex with you cus you so cool…you White guys are really strange… But i hope you got my point for your benefit so you wouldnt be so confused about them…

    • kick2dante says:

      i ask every girl i meet before hand if they want money, i go out of my way to try to avoid this situation, do you think i really want to have to offend girls that dont want money by asking this?

      if you want money for something and someone asks ‘do you want money for this’ a good idea would be to say yes

      • Lurker says:

        Common sense in PH is different and somewhat weird. They usually avoid confrontational questions and their “no” answer to your question could mean no, maybe or yes depending on the person. In your situation,
        white guy/foreigner = easy money,
        asking for money = you’re buying their body,
        requesting favor/big problem = you are willing to help them with their problem which happens to be money.
        When you hook them up, if you didn’t hint you want to buy them and they still come with you then that means they want to have sex. After that, whether you want to give them money is up to you.

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  11. Bill says:

    Its not just simply giving money to them. They just see u as weak and ratchet it up. Plus they don’t appreciate the help. They will just see u as a sucker. You can’t buy love

  12. Davidson says:

    Amen to what Bill said. The man decides how much and if he will or will not give to them.

  13. Davidson says:

    You can’t rely upon them to tell you upfront if they want money or not. They all want as much as they can get out of you.

  14. Eric says:

    I used to chat with Filipino girls on FC. Usually before i planned to go to Philippines. Some of them asked me for money after some time of chatting. I said I am sorry, but not. There was few that kept asking and asking. Eventually they became rude. So i had no choice. I “sent” them each 6000PHP. Of course they been given fake money transfer number. I always did that to scammers. Worked.
    MY ADVICE. NEVER SEND MONEY TO YOUR GF IN PHILIPPINES. Pure good Filipina will never ask for money.
    Another advice. If you looking for Filipino wife. Forget Philippines. 99 percent girls there are not looking for serious relation with foreigner. Its always about money.
    SO WHERE TO FIND GOOD FILIPINA. I can tell from my experience. I was not looking for wife, but i met my wife in HK and she was totally opposite to girls living in Philippines. She was and she is hardworking till now. My friend met his wife in Singapore. They live together for 10 years. We all working and living in UK. None of us is millionaire. My wife sent money to family once so far. I asked her why so little. She said. Money in western world does not grow on tree.
    IF YOU THINK ABOUT GOOD RELATION WITH FILIPINA GF ELIMINATE MONEY IN RELATION. When you start living with Filipina treat her like partner 50/50. Work together share cost of living together. Trust me you will be happy with your Filipina. If you give her everything on plate. She will take it and leave when you left without money.

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  16. BOW says:

    I think I get your point. Maybe because my sister paid her gf until she has debt.. Kind of you can buy a good car in Thailand with that money.
    All credit card are full. And that bicth family get cash happy..
    I wake up in one day and know all now it my problem to help all about it.
    Philippines girl likes to play in victim. Yes my sister is stupid but that bicth use something you can denied it “love”
    Still stupid anyway, ..

    And like you were said they say no money at first because shy to speak out but still asked.

    And I was stupid too I welcome devil gold dicker to my family… I open my heart for their love..
    And then bitch suck all money.
    The bad thing is she still stick with my sister.
    After I work sister problem done it mush be lot of dram in our family for sure..
    Bitch will play to victim and I am devil sister..

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