There’s no ‘Friend Zone’ with Filipina Girls
I have hit on this in many blog posts on this site but I think it is such an important thing that I want to focus on it a bit more. This really is one of the absolute best things about living in the Philippines.
How the Friend Zone Works
In first world countries, you meet a girl that you think is attractive. You try to be nice and kind to her because you figure the more time you spend with her the better your chances are.
You try and help her out when she tells you that she has a small problem. You may buy her a few small gifts just to show her that you care.
Suddenly you are a big part of her life and the two of you are spending a lot of time together. Eventually the two of you are hanging out alone one night and you decide now is the time to make the move.
You go in for the kiss……. and she asks you what you are doing. She says that you are just friends and now things are super awkward and you realize you have no chance of ever hooking up with her.
All the time you spent trying to get close to her will lead to nothing. But she is hot so you may hold out hope and put in more effort just to get rejected again.
That’s Not how it is Here
I can’t stress enough on this blog that if you want to have casual hook ups with girls in the Philippines the most important thing you can do is make them comfortable with you. Over here there’s no friend zone dilemma. In fact being their friend is a good place to be.
If you could ask yourself what the dream scenarios with girls would be I bet it would go something like this: Instead of having to try to ‘game’ girls and use ‘PUA’ (pick up artist) techniques all you have to do is be nice to them and they will sleep with you.
Maybe that isn’t the case for you, but it certainly is for me. I don’t know how ‘game’ works. I do know how to be nice and friendly though.
Throughout my life no matter what I do I like to take the easy way out. With poker I never studied and improved my game. In work I find easy stuff to do and put in lots of hours instead of developing a skill.
Not sure how this would all work in e.g. China / Japan / Korea
Well in less developed Asian countries the easy way is just being their friend. Smile and be happy when you are around them. Send them kind texts and ask how their day is going.
Invite them to hang out and keep the mood light throughout. Be a gentleman and don’t treat them like a sex object. Don’t talk about sex too directly in texts, unless they lead the conversation that way.
Invite them to your place to ‘watch a movie.’ Put your arm around them from the start of the movie so they are used to body contact. Be patient for 20 – 30 mins and then at a boring time of the movie go in for a kiss.
That really is all you need to do in the Philippines and there’s no risk of being put in a ‘friend’ box in her mind and sex never happening. How perfect is that?
Leave ‘Negging’ for the Western Chicks
Many guys use negging and have lots of success with it back home. Make a chick think you have no interest in her so that she wants to gain your interest and approval.
I think that probably only works for sexy guys, cuz I know if I tried to ‘neg’ a western chick she wouldn’t want to win my approval, she would think I was an asshole.
In South East Asia negging is an absolutely terrible technique to try and use. A huge part of Asian culture, at least in the countries I’ve been, is never having any confrontations or ‘losing face.’
When you neg a Filipina girl she has now lost face. Her mood will be much worse and the interaction between the two of you will suffer greatly.
The whole key to Asian girls is keeping the mood light and keeping them happy. Negging them does the complete opposite. It may work from time to time, but you would have scored the same chick by being kind anyways. It will cost you some, and likely will never gain you any.
Now maybe if you come across a 10 (which are damn near impossible to find) that has hundreds of suitors and want to try it that would be the time.
But with your average Pinay, negging is the wrong play to make.
Let me know what you guys think. Is there a ‘friend zone’ problem in places the Philippines, Vietnam etc.?