Getting Laid on Filipino Cupid on Day 1, Date 1

Hi guys, so I’m on a visa run in the Philippines at the moment while Dante is in Thailand, we’ve swapped places! I landed Tuesday, signed up for a membership on FilipinoCupid Wednesday and woke up with a 20 year old Filipina in my bed on Thursday. I love Asia!


I’d used ThaiCupid before but this was my first time on their Philippines dating site.

I made a profile a couple days before landing in Manila as it’s free to appear in search and get sent some initial messages / receive interests. Then I bought a membership when I was settled in and ready to reply.

If you put up pics of yourself in a nice place the girls should come over easier. I used Dante’s link for $35 off on Airbnb then found the studio room above in Makati for $40/night with good reviews.

knightsbridge-residences-makati-internet-speed-wifiI’m enjoying the room so far, happy to recommend it – wifi is ok (for the Philippines), and the owner provided everything I needed.

I’d also recommend not linking your primary email to FC as it will be rammed with several messages an hour. Pinays really aren’t shy and they don’t just message guys in their city, you’ll get messages like ‘hey, just giving this a shot, if you’re ever in Boracay let’s hang out’.


You can also try a Chrome extension called Auto Refresh to reload tabs while you’re AFK, it keeps your profile on top of the search results (pro tip). I haven’t checked it with Cupid sites but it definitely works with Pinalove and Thaifriendly. I ran that while I unpacked.

First Date

After a couple hours I saw I had an interest from an ok looking girl, so I sent her a message. Within a few messages she’d given me her number and invited me to some mall 20km away to meet her.

I was feeling adventurous to see different parts of the city so I didn’t mind going so far and ordered a cab on ‘Grab’ mobile app (cheaper and more safer taxi company).


The way she asked ‘you want party?’ made me think she might be after money but I didn’t mind giving her ‘taxi money’ if she wanted it.

I didn’t follow Dante’s advice of asking them if they’re a hooker before even meeting, lol.

She also said she’s with a friend, again I didn’t follow Dante’s advice of never letting Filipina dates bring a friend, I was tired so didn’t feel like making conversation one on one anyway.

Filipino Time

So I get to Alabang mall about 10pm, and it’s like something out of a Resident Evil movie, Manila is really ghetto outside of Makati and the Fort. Like Tijuana without the good food.

It turns out the mall closed at 9 (reminds me of Issan in Thailand), even though at 9.10 she’d said to text her when I got there. Mall workers sitting outside waiting for a bus home are staring at me like WTF is this white dude doing here in the middle of nowhere trying to get into the mall.


I find a security guard still standing outside the mall with his shotgun and stand around near him.

It takes 10 mins for her to reply to my message saying I’d arrived, then another 15 mins for her to show up, turns out she’d gone home to get dressed even though I’d texted to say I was on my way.

I ask her why she invited me here if it’s closed and she says sorry it’s near my place so it’s easy to meet. I let it go and we get in a taxi to go out, I have no idea where’s good to go as it’s my first night out in Manila, so asked her to suggest somewhere.



She suggests Ermita, which I know is right next to Makati so basically we’re going back to where to where I came from, I joke that she could’ve just met me there. The friend looks at me to ask if we can go on the skyway, basically asking if I mind paying the toll fee, 180 pesos. I say sure.

Then when we arrive they look at me and tell me the meter fare, 300, and I pay that.

We go to Exclusiv Club which was pretty dead at 11 on a weekday night. The service staff say something to the girls, then they look at me and ask if I want to sit upstairs in the VIP area, it’s 5000 pesos. I lol and say no let’s sit downstairs, the place is mostly empty anyway.

I order a drink and they order 3 beers between themselves, I ask why 3 and they say ‘it has to be 3’ for some reason, I say ok, thinking maybe it’s a buy 2 get 1 free deal or something. The bill arrives and they point to me. I pay it, 600 pesos.


Can I Order?

The friend was also been looking at the food menu at this point – it’s a nightclub so obviously it’s really expensive finger food like a small plate of french fries for 300 pesos – and then looking at me for approval. She asks if she can order.

At this point I get a bit annoyed, and say no to the food. I don’t mind paying for stuff but normally girls would make some small token effort to chip in, or at least reach for their purse (at which point I’d say don’t worry about it). Especially in a group of 3, it’s not a one on one date, and it wasn’t my original idea to go partying.

I’m starting to think they’re freelancers as the friend has a pic of herself in lingerie on her phone home screen and kinda looks like one, although my girl seems more normal and cuter.

I had forgot to ask what she does for work as I hate getting asked that question myself. I ask her now, and she says ‘nothing, just party’ and that she was planning to study.


I ask how she’d have come to Ermita if I wasn’t there, if she’d have taken a taxi all this way as a student, and she said no she’d have taken a bus and a jeepney. She asks me ‘are you okay?’ (for about the 5th time).

I explain it’s a bit rude to tell a guy to meet you at a closed mall so you can get a free ride into town with a friend, and look at him everytime something needs to be paid, at this point I’m down 1000 pesos to her and her friend. I ask if she normally does this, and if she goes with guys for money.

I don’t mind, but just want to know so I don’t end up paying for a night out and then sex on top, I’d rather just skip the expensive 3 way night out if so.

She says sorry, and says no she never goes with guys for money. I suggest somewhere a bit more laid back than a nightclub so we get in a cab to Pasay area, and this time the friend pays, 150 pesos. The friend is a bit older, and has a Skype call with some old western dude in the U.S. during the cab journey, turning sideways in the front seat so I’m not in the shot.


The night starts going normally once we’re in Pasay, they both pay for their share of the food, and are really apologetic. We ate at Giligan’s restobar by the river. I swear every Filipino dish is fried and/or dripping in oil.

I’m having more fun though as it feels more like a relaxed date instead of taking a couple hookers to a nightclub. I liked the Pasay riverfront area (above), it has a ferris wheel and is near the Mall of Asia.

My girl keeps asking me if I’m ok (about ten times now) and ‘what do you want’. Then she asks if I want a massage. The same line Dante uses on girls 😀 . I say yeah sure and she asks where, I say why don’t you just come to mine, and she agrees.

We get home, shower then get into bed. After the massage I say thanks and go in for a kiss, and we bang.


Morning After

She takes hours to leave the next day, finally leaves at 3pm when I start working on my laptop. I’d asked her if she needs any taxi money before that, she said ‘no it’s ok, I’ll take a jeep – why, do you want me to go?’ Then another hour went by.

When she finally did leave, as I’m walking her out she announced ‘I’ll take a taxi’, changing her mind. I felt that was her way of saying ‘ok I’ll take that taxi money actually’ but being shy to ask.

I handed her 300 then logged back onto FilipinoCupid to do it all over again. Total cost about 1500 pesos to see a bit of Manila and get laid with a 20 year old ‘student’.

My read is she’s what Dante calls a gray area girl, happy to have sex on the first date if it she gets a night out, or some food / taxi money out of it, has fun, and freerolls the possibility of the guy becoming a boyfriend / husband one day.

31 Responses

  1. jspill jspill says:

    your thoughts, dante? 🙂

  2. kick2dante kick2dante says:

    thoughts are A) lots of work to get laid in the Philippines

    B) cost as much as a hooker

    C) probably was a hooker, a regular girl asking ‘want a massage’ randomly when you are out and about? never seen that before

    if you are willing to spend hours and 1500 pesos on girls u will get laid every night with no problems, or you could just pay a hooker and cut out the hours and hassle

  3. jspill jspill says:

    costs as much as a hooker in angeles/cebu, but not manila bro, from everything i’ve read on this blog. not for a 20yo longtime

    i spent about 1000 on them, i was counting my cab journey to get alabang in the 1500. wasn’t much effort to just go to a club and a restaurant, when i need to explore a new city anyway

  4. kick2dante kick2dante says:

    different strokes……. sounds like an awful night to me until the end, as I said if you want to do stuff like that then you will have zero problems getting laid, but its a lot more effort and money then you need to spend

    hey im staying in makati at knightsbridge my pool is awesome you should come over to swimming na!!!

  5. frank says:

    Were you wearing your “I fuck on the first date” T-shirt?

  6. What a terrible night, your patience is strong on this one lol and WTF is 300 pesos worth of fries? A rip off (eating 40 pesos fries at my bar while typing this)🍟

  7. CannabisTourist says:

    And what about weed in Phils ? Can you score easily ? Thanks.

    • jspill jspill says:

      I keep reading it’s more risky than thailand, longer prison sentences / higher bribes, so I wouldn’t buy it myself, I’d ask a girl to buy it for me and pay her, that’s what I do in Thailand. Only place I’d buy it myself are cambodia/laos, easy and safe there

  8. Pedo says:

    1500 pesos and hours in the cab and on boring dates might as well get a freelancer and cut all the crap

  9. thibault says:

    if she is the girl eating on the restaurant picture, she s worth the effort and money.
    still a very good deal. you could have cut the spending a bit and not go to disco, all the rest is good.
    1500 for long time , date… and the peso cost less than the bath?
    here in europe my friend spend 300 on a short time with a ugly hooker the other day and it was still a good deal as she had great attitude.
    with the 300 for taxi she took jeepney and kept money as a payment… a ridiculous amount for her services. definitely worth doing those grey area party girls. i mean, she s not even a ladyboy!

  10. Virtuousvillian says:

    Ive been here for 6 months in makati greenbelt and had a ton of these fuckers from tinder, badoo, pinalove, dateinasia..etc.
    If you want sex go to badoo. That app is the king of them all with 1000’s to easily fuck, but every last one of them are all fucking retards and you have to be on drugs yourself or you will go insane from the absurd conversations you have to endure online..forget about live..omfg! But if all you want is just a hole to stick it
    in..go for it! ( but imo most asians/pinays/thais are shitty lays )
    If you want a better quality girl (loosely termed) the only place to go is tinder. Ive met “lawyers in training”, a dermatologist, corp. executives(so they say..but indicate at least that they can carry a half decent intelligent conversation…but of course forget trying to bring up someone like Brian Greene or Noam chomsky or even very basic economics or world events).
    Good luck to all.

  11. kick2dante kick2dante says:

    who is brian greene?

    i think ive heard of the second dude cuz i think chomsky is fun to say

  12. Thibault says:

    I just read a blog article that makes me think about this post. It seems to be older than this, so you theroretically couldhave been warned.
    Wellyoucould listen to dante, but he would not have paid transport in tbe first place haha
    At least for you it ended well, so. The advice of all dumping tbem immediately may be con terproductive. For beautiful ones at least

  13. SouthernAdventurer says:

    Must be better in Manilla. Cebu is a hell of a lot more work. Some come straight over but there usually 6’s and 7’s the ones that are hotter take a lot more effort (not close to as much as back home but still). I think guys coming in for a week or two are better off in Manilla or Angeles. Like you guys say Cebu is more for longer term stays.

    One thing I’ve noticed that really blows my mind is how none of them ever have load. I got a 250 peso plan that gives unlimited texts to all networks. I mean even after giving this one more then her 500 pesos twice for a taxi. A taxi to her place runs around 150-200 depending on traffic I know because I paid for it directly to get there which I have taken to doing just to get them to come straight to my place. She could easily have gotten enough to last a month but no. I have to wait on a reply for hours because she ran out. Its frustrating.

    • kick2dante kick2dante says:

      its the 6’s and 7’s in manila too for the most part

      show me an 8… no really i want to see one

      • SouthernAdventurer says:

        Ive seen some 8’s on cupid but they usually have high standards and want the whole marriage BS. One 9 in person but she was Korean and married. I can see what you mean though most Filpinas are in that range. The girl Jspill took a pic of in this article would be the best looking one nighter I’ve had. Not quite an 8 but a solid 7.5

      • jspill jspill says:

        with that Bitcoin wallet I mentioned you can send a girl 30 pesos load, from the app on your phone

        the hottest girls I’ve banged in Phils were all hookers, mostly from Kojax bar on Burgos

        • SouthernAdventurer says:

          Ditto that one I went home with that night we went out is still the hottest I’ve had. But I haven’t done much p4p since either. The hot ones on the dating sites have figured out whats up and stick to older white guys that they know want to marry. That is logical I suppose.

          I’ll check out the bitcoin wallet that sounds promising. I just find it strange they buy makeup like crazy and can’t afford load. A brand new mega million dollar mall next to shanty towns in a city with 3 already in it. Fillpinos prioritize all the wrong things lol.

  14. Bas says:

    How I would like to meet one here in The Netherlands!

    xxx Bas

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