Filipina Girlfriend Asking for Money
Without a doubt the most confusing part of my current life is trying to figure out of the girls I hang out with want money or not. #PhilippinesProblems.
‘Filipina girlfriend asking for money’ and ‘allowance’ are auto suggested by Google sometimes when you start typing, so I can’t be the only one.
I do all that I can to find out before we hang out the first time, but I still am often unsure.
You would think the easiest way to find out the answer is to just ask right? So that is what I do before I hang out with any new sexy Pinay that I meet.
I politely ask if it is OK for me to ask her a rude question, and then say I am sorry to ask this but ‘do you go with man for money?’ Afterwards I explain that I just want to make sure, and I was not accusing her and hope I did not offend.
Doing it in that manner I have only lost contact with a few Filipina women over the years who got offended. My theory is that they probably did in fact want money but didn’t want to lose face so called me an @sshole for asking instead of just saying yes.
Most Filipina girls will understand when you tell them that many girls here want money. Again you just have to do it in a kind way and not an accusing way. The problem is even when you ask they may say no but they still want cash.
I met a girl on Pinalove and we chatted for awhile. I invited her over to my place in the afternoon and she said OK. I asked her if she went with man for money and she said no, and I said OK and offered to pay her fare.
She came over and we chatted for half an hour and then threw on a movie on the laptop in bed. She cuddled up closer and closer to me on the bed during the movie and I made my move.
After showing her the best 2 minutes of her life I take a shower. As I’m drying off she says that she needs to go home and I give her the jeepney fare. She then asks if she can ‘have a favor’ because she needs to buy shoes for school and can I give her the money for them?
What the? She just told me a few hours ago that she wasn’t coming over for money.
This will happen from time to time, but more often they wait until a few days later to tell you about their ‘big problem’ and ask you to help. I really do not understand what is going through their heads, I have asked them if they wanted money and they said no. Yet they still come over and give it up easily and then try to guilt me in to paying.
The thing is it’s not really fair to me because I would not have gone with them if they wanted me to pay. That is the whole point of asking, to weed out the pros. Yet they say no and then ask for it after. In these cases I generally give them a small amount so they at least got something for their time, but not near as much as they were hoping to get.
From time to time you will get some real head scratchers though. They will say they don’t want money, then throw out many mixed signals. In those cases they probably want money but are too shy to ask for it. However that is not always the case.
Is your Filipina girlfriend asking for money? Let me know your best strat for dealing with it!